Long-term relationships are a result of the sheer dedication of two souls, who defy all odds with their will to stay together. Unfortunately, not everybody gets what they crave for their entire lives – an amazing companion. Things often come to an end, and people are left lamenting for the loss they’ve suffered. If you’re here thinking we will help you forget the person you once loved truly like portrayed in the movie ‘Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind’, you’re wrong. And for obvious reasons, you won’t be able to do that either. You can’t just stop loving a person and be okay with it. That’s not how things work.
In case you’ve been feeling very restless, here are 6 tips to get over a long-term relationship and heal your broken heart:
1. Take Your Time:
Once you’ve broken up, the first thing you need to understand is that the healing process takes time. Give yourself some breathing space. If you feel like your home is no longer where you want to be, pack your bags and set out to travel. Travelling is one of the best things that take your mind off from the situations you don’t want to deal with currently.
2. Move Out:
Once your partner moves out, you won’t feel like living in the same apartment any longer. The décor you picked together as a couple won’t bring any joy to you, rather the memories of the times you shared together as a couple will haunt you as long as you stay there. Moving out will not only take your mind off the situation for a while but also ensure a fresh start for you for the days to come.
3. Cut The Bridges:
If you felt it won’t work out eventually and chose to let go, whether it be for their betterment, you need to cut some mutual people out of your life. This, however, depends on the level of maturity you two had as a couple. If you two were mature enough to understand the aftermaths, this isn’t necessary. In case you feel depressed around the people who act as a bridge between you and your ex, you need to let them go as well.
4. Don’t Resist Too Much:
Resistance is futile. If you can’t control something, don’t bother about it. Getting depressed over things you can’t control will only bring further misery to your already broken heart. If you start forbidding yourself from each and every little joy in life just because you had a breakup, things will only get worse than they already are.
5. Understand The True Meaning Of Moving On:
Moving on from a relationship doesn’t actually mean you need to hate each other in order to speed up the healing process. It rather means that you guys came to an understanding and took a unified decision to ensure each other’s happiness in the long run. Don’t block them on social media and Instagram. It won’t do any good to either of you, trust me.
6. Give Yourself Pocket Promises:
In case you feel that you are really addicted to your partner and need to take control of your life, we have got a solution for you. Take a post-it paper and write yourself a ‘pocket-promise’. A ‘pocket-promise’ is a commitment you promise yourself that you’ll keep, no matter what. Keep it with you at all times and whenever you feel like you’re going weak again, read the piece of paper and gather the strength to go on.
I’d like to establish a few things straight. First, you can never forget a person completely with whom you once imagined spending your life and second, you can’t just torture yourself wanting to get back together neglecting the practical aspects of breaking up. If you feel suffocated all the time, see a therapist instead. Talking with your friends will also help in healing the broken heart. Stay blessed!